Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life For Radical Success
Welcome to the Stop Bending Over Podcast with Rita Marie Mendez. I’m on a mission to support women to get unstuck, love themselves completely and live the life of their dreams.This podcast isn’t about your lower back pain - it’s about bending over forwards and backwards to either feel screwed or overdo and meet everyone else’s needs, including our businesses, and not fill up our own tanks and desires. For more than a decade in my work as a Transformational Life + Business Coach, I’ve coached women to manifest their dream life, from the inside out. On this show I'll do what I love best - coaching you to actionable strategies both divine and human that inspire and connect you to your authentic self that holds all the wisdom you need to unleash an extraordinary life.Each week I'll share new tools and skills to master this thing we call life!
Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life For Radical Success
(#55) Part 3: The Perfectionist Identity: The Hidden Identity Blocking High-Achieving Women from Success
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If you struggle with perfectionism, overthinking, fear of judgment, or fear of failure, this episode is for you.
In this episode, Rita breaks down the Perfectionist Identity - a powerful but limiting pattern many high-achieving women live in without realizing it. What looks like discipline, high standards, and productivity is actually rooted in control, codependency, and emotional over-functioning.
You’ll learn how perfectionism forms in childhood, how it shows up as overthinking, procrastination, and avoidance, and how it directly impacts your confidence, income, business growth, and nervous system regulation.
If you’re ready to overcome perfectionism, stop overthinking, take action, and build self-trust, this episode will shift how you see your patterns and help you step into aligned leadership.
(Part 3 of the 4-part Identity Series)
Top 4 Takeaways
- Perfectionism is control, not excellence
- Overcoming perfectionism requires self-trust, not more effort
- Perfectionism in high-achieving women leads to overthinking and procrastination
- Fear of judgment and fear of failure keep you stuck
Timestamps
[00:40–04:40] Perfectionism identity + intro for high-achieving women
[04:40–08:40] Why patterns drive behavior (overcoming perfectionism starts here)
[08:40–14:10] Perfectionism vs excellence (control and codependency)
[14:10–22:40] Childhood roots of perfectionism and overthinking
[22:40–30:40] How perfectionism shows up: procrastination, delay, avoidance
[30:40–39:40] Perfectionism, nervous system, and burnout
[39:40–45:40] How to overcome perfectionism and build self-trust
Resources & Links
“Where am I overthinking instead of taking action?”
“What am I trying to control that isn’t mine?”
“What would I do if I trusted myself fully?”
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