Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life For Radical Success
Welcome to the Stop Bending Over Podcast with Rita Marie Mendez. I’m on a mission to support women to get unstuck, love themselves completely and live the life of their dreams.This podcast isn’t about your lower back pain - it’s about bending over forwards and backwards to either feel screwed or overdo and meet everyone else’s needs, including our businesses, and not fill up our own tanks and desires. For more than a decade in my work as a Transformational Life + Business Coach, I’ve coached women to manifest their dream life, from the inside out. On this show I'll do what I love best - coaching you to actionable strategies both divine and human that inspire and connect you to your authentic self that holds all the wisdom you need to unleash an extraordinary life.Each week I'll share new tools and skills to master this thing we call life!
Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life For Radical Success
(#50) How To Stop Looking Back & Start Becoming Who You’re Meant To Be
Episode Summary:
“You’re not lost. You’re not behind. You’re in a sacred space. This is expansion"
In this milestone 50th episode, Rita takes you on a deep-dive journey through the messy middle - that liminal space between the old identity you’re shedding and the future self you’re becoming. She shares her personal stories, universal truths, and powerful mindset and somatic tools for navigating emotional overwhelm, identity shifts, and internal chaos with grounded courage.
This episode is spiritual and practical, fierce and compassionate, offering everything you need to move through transition with grace and momentum.
Top 5 Takeaways:
1. The Messy Middle is Sacred
That in-between space isn't failure, it's transformation. You're not broken; you're becoming.
2. Awareness is Power
Emotional mastery starts with recognizing you’re in a loop, a trigger, or an identity shift and not letting it define you.
3. You Are Not Your Emotions
Instead of “I am sad,” shift to “I feel sad.” This small language tweak separates your identity from your experience.
4. The Market Is Between Your Ears
Your mindset, not external conditions, shapes your reality.
5. Action Is the Way Out
You can’t think your way into your next self. You must embody her/him now. Start with one grounded choice.
Timestamps:
[08:15] Why Familiarity Isn’t Safety—and Why We Stay Stuck
[16:08] Emotional Flatlining, Grief & Looking Over Your Shoulder
[20:10] Identity, Expansion, and the Drama Triangle
[25:45] Emotional Mastery Defined (and Why It Changes Everything)
[32:26] 3-Step Tool #1: Awareness & Identity Inquiry
[38:04] 60-Second Reset – Somatic Tool #2: Box Breathing + Self-Soothing
[43:00] Embodiment Tool #3: Grounded Future Self Activation
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