Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life For Radical Success
Welcome to the Stop Bending Over Podcast with Rita Marie Mendez. I’m on a mission to support women to get unstuck, love themselves completely and live the life of their dreams.This podcast isn’t about your lower back pain - it’s about bending over forwards and backwards to either feel screwed or overdo and meet everyone else’s needs, including our businesses, and not fill up our own tanks and desires. For more than a decade in my work as a Transformational Life + Business Coach, I’ve coached women to manifest their dream life, from the inside out. On this show I'll do what I love best - coaching you to actionable strategies both divine and human that inspire and connect you to your authentic self that holds all the wisdom you need to unleash an extraordinary life.Each week I'll share new tools and skills to master this thing we call life!
Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life For Radical Success
(#46) Stack Your Wins: How to Stop Self-Sabotage and Take Action
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Episode Summary:
In this episode, Rita unpacks why you keep circling the same goals but don’t make real progress—and spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re lazy. It’s because your brain is running old programs designed for survival, not success. Rita explains the psychology behind self-sabotage, introduces her three powerful tools for creating momentum, and invites you to take radical ownership of your focus, identity, and habits—one small step at a time.
Top 5 Takeaways:
- You're not broken—you're running a "competing intention."
- The brain is wired for survival, not success.
- Clarity + Accountability > Hustle.
- Focus creates evidence; evidence rewires belief.
- You don’t rise to the level of your goals—you fall to the level of your patterns.
Time Stamps:
09:08 The unconscious vs. resourced self—and what both really want
13:47 The problem with past programming and why we stay small
18:51 Personal story: bullying, self-worth, and identity healing
23:40 How we gas-brake our goals (and fool ourselves doing it)
26:01 Tool #1: The Focus Formula – commit to one result this week
32:00 Tool #2: Daily Evidence List – track one momentum action/day
38:54 Tool #3: Habit Stacking – drop the old stackers, build new ones
40:40 Reality vs. expectation: bridge the gap with aligned strategy
Resources & Next Steps:
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