Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life For Radical Success
Welcome to the Stop Bending Over Podcast with Rita Marie Mendez. I’m on a mission to support women to get unstuck, love themselves completely and live the life of their dreams.This podcast isn’t about your lower back pain - it’s about bending over forwards and backwards to either feel screwed or overdo and meet everyone else’s needs, including our businesses, and not fill up our own tanks and desires. For more than a decade in my work as a Transformational Life + Business Coach, I’ve coached women to manifest their dream life, from the inside out. On this show I'll do what I love best - coaching you to actionable strategies both divine and human that inspire and connect you to your authentic self that holds all the wisdom you need to unleash an extraordinary life.Each week I'll share new tools and skills to master this thing we call life!
Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life For Radical Success
(#36) Feeling Stuck? Here’s How to Get Moving Again
Episode Summary:
In this episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives into what it really means to feel stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected from your dreams. She talks about how patterns of people-pleasing, rescuing, and over-committing keep us from living authentically. Rita outlines three steps—Radical Awareness, Permission to Dream, and Aligned Action—to help listeners break free from survival mode and reconnect with what truly lights them up. This episode is your reminder to slow down, get Selfish with your dreams, and take small, meaningful steps toward the life you deserve.
Notable Quotes:
"Growth and expansion aren’t just our birthright—it’s who we are. When we resist it, life becomes painful."
"The ego loves to keep us running in the same patterns. It will create distractions to keep you from slowing down and dreaming."
"Radical awareness means we stop pretending not to know what’s keeping us stuck. You can’t change what you don’t see."
"Dreaming for yourself isn’t selfish—it's necessary. When you give yourself permission to dream, you create space for your highest self to show up."
"Your word is your wand. When you keep your word to yourself, you build self-trust. The biggest betrayal isn’t from others—it’s betraying yourself."
In This Episode:
|09:29| – Action step: Take an inventory of your day—Where are you over-committing or blaming?
|19:08| – Permission to dream selfishly with a big S—Why it's essential for entrepreneurs.
|26:20| – Self-honoring choices: Saying no to draining commitments.
|28:45|– Wrap-up: Awareness, acceptance, and aligned action—Permission to dream again.
Resources:
3 Steps to Break Free from Codependent Patterns:
Step 1: Radical Awareness – Stop Pretending Not to Know
* Take inventory of your day: Are you over-helping, complaining, blaming, or feeling resentful? Write down one situation where you feel stuck, and ask yourself: Am I pretending not to know what’s really going on?
Step 2: Release the Need to Rescue or People-Please – Get Clear on What You Want
* Take a few minutes to journal: What do I want right now? Not what others need, not what you should do—what do you want? It’s okay if it feels selfish. Give yourself permission to dream.
Step 3: Take Aligned Action – Break the Cycle by Doing One Thing Differently
* Identify one small action that feels aligned with the life you want. It could be saying no, setting a boundary, or letting someone else handle things. Practice it today and notice how it feels.
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